Last weekend marked a lot of firsts for me and my family; first flights, first time being in Tennessee, first time meeting new in-laws. My brother got married on Saturday, June 8. Everything was nice enough and everything seemed to go smoothly, with the exception of the wedding night where the family went out to a pricey restaurant before we had to go home the next morning. Knowing that we couldn't afford it, we only ordered drinks for us and a kid's meal for our daughter. My brother and his new wife also tried to buy small by sharing a meal and getting drinks for each of them. When the bills came, the waitress asked if the bills would be together or separate. We got a separate bill, as did everyone else. We paid and waited for everyone else. I saw that one of my cousins was eyeballing my mom to pay for him, so from what I saw, there was some negotiations between my brother and sister to pay for him. From what I saw, my sister ended up paying for a majority of the bill.
Fast forward to Tuesday this week and I asked my husband if he knew what had happened. It turned out that both my cousin AND my mother couldn't pay their bills and had asked my brother to pay for it. I am instantly embarrassed and angry at my mother for this. My brother JUST got married that day and him and his bride are trying to save their money. If my mom knew she couldn't afford this trip, she should have said so and suggested another place to eat.
So to my new sister-in-law, on behalf of my family, I would like to apologize for my mom's behavior. I would also like to take this opportunity to warn you- this will not be the last time she does this. She is a manipulator and my brother is under her control. Always has been, and I hope he can break the cycle. Please keep your marriage to yourselves because she will create wedges.
If you would like to have specific examples, feel free to contact me.
